#20 Stop Setting Realistic Goals

January brings a familiar pattern. You start the year with high energy and new resolutions. By early February, most people quit. This happens to about 80% of people. It is not because they are lazy. It is because they set goals that kill momentum before it starts. Many people rely on SMART goals. These are specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound. They sound good on paper. They live in the logical part of your brain. The problem is that growth does not happen in safety. Dogs and humans grow when there is desire, emotion, and a challenge. SMART goals are often uninspiring. They do not give you a reason to push through hard days. Dream Driven Goals I want you to try DUMB goals instead. These are dream driven, not method driven. SMART goals focus on the method. DUMB goals focus on your heart and vision. They change your energy and your mood. People around you will feel the difference when you have a vision that lights you up. Examples of dream driven goals include: Becoming the calmest person in the room. Being the clearest leader your dog has ever had. Waking up with energy and purpose every day. Aligning your life and your business so they feel right. You must decide who you need to become before you decide what you need to do. In dog training, we start with the picture of the finished dog. We see the outcome first. Then we break it into small actions. Life works the same way. Use Structure to Support Vision I am not against SMART goals. They are excellent for execution. They are terrible for inspiration. Use them only after you set your vision. Once you know who you are becoming, the structure keeps you on track. Think of a dog. You do not use precision tools until the dog understands the game. You build desire and relationship first. If you go straight to the tools, you micromanage the life out of the training. If you go to the gym without a vision and overwork yourself, you will not go back. You must have the "why" to survive the "how." Stack Your Wins People quit because they focus on one massive goal. If they do not hit it immediately, they lose motivation. You need to stack small wins to build momentum. Momentum builds confidence. If you want to improve your fitness, do not just focus on the weight you want to lose. Focus on showing up four days this week. If you want a better relationship with your dog, schedule three short training sessions. Put these on your calendar. Celebrate when you finish them. These small links create a chain of success. Practice Self Regulation When you feel overwhelmed, do not bark. Reset. Your dog reflects your energy. If you are frustrated, your dog will be too. Use your breath to train your nervous system. Inhale through your nose for four seconds. Hold for two seconds. Let the breath out slowly for six seconds. Do this three times. You might need to do this twenty times a day. That is fine. Consistency beats intensity every time. Your future depends on the choices you make today. Stop playing it safe. Start with a vision that makes you sit up straighter. Then build the structure to get there. Your dog is waiting for you to lead.